The Spouse's Happiness

There are many sources of conflict in a marriage, but I believe there is one that truly puts it at risk: no longer making the other person's happiness a priority.

The day you get married, you take on the responsibility of caring for your spouse’s growth, dignity, and development. But when children, work, personal wounds, or the pursuit of your own happiness take that place, the relationship begins to weaken.

A vicious cycle then develops: each person focuses on protecting themselves, while the other’s happiness is pushed into the background.

Your husband’s or wife’s happiness is tied to their growth, integrity, and ability to fully develop their potential. To love someone is also to remain attentive to their continued growth and maturity.

And although it is not always easy to put the other person first again—especially when you have been hurt by their selfishness—a simple change in perspective can sometimes completely transform the course of a relationship.